So I have been on a free online dating site for about a year now. I enjoy meeting new people quickly and learning about peoples hobbies, jobs, where they live, etc. I just think its interesting. Plus, I like going out on dates with different guys. It somehow teaches me what to look for and what not to look for in a potential “serious” boyfriend, that is if I ever get one. Besides that its fun to meet new people :)
So I was talking to this guy “Tez” for a couple of days. He was really sweet, he was nice, polite, and even kinda cute. We had been texting for about a week now. Last night out of nowhere he asked me if I was talking to any guys. I told him I would tell him but I wanted to know why first. I really don’t like talking about other guys or girls when I am talking to someone - it just doesn’t seem right. But so he wanted to know because “he wanted to be the ONLY guy I was talking to.” Like he owned me or something. Right then and there I was like this guy is messed up. So I went on to tell him I was talking to other guys and that I was not looking for something serious I was looking for a good time and I was looking to meet new people. He kept badgering me and eventually said that I was a “Waste of Time” and that he wasn’t going to talk to me anymore. Like what the fuck?! Okay? We have only been talking for a week and you want to get married? So basically I told him to fuck off and that if he wanted a relationship it wasn’t going to happen overnight.
I just want to talk to people. I’m not looking for anything serious - in fact that freaks me out. I don’t feel like I could ever trust someone so much to be in a long term relationship and/or even get married. It just blows my mind. Apparently, he didn’t wanna talk because it would take too much time to get to know me and eventually I would have wasted too much of his time for nothing. Even at the very least he could have made a new friend, but once again it wasn’t enough for him.
Does anyone else have this problem?